A few years ago, I fell in love with a man and we started a relationship. Everything was going well, except for one recurring issue: there were certain days and times when he simply couldn’t come over. I assumed he was busy or tied up with other responsibilities, so I didn’t question it and just let it be.
But recently, I learned the real reason—he was married. He had a wife, whom he’d been married to for ten years. They had three children together and lived in a very nice part of the city. I only discovered the truth because his wife confronted me about the “affair.”
Needless to say, that confrontation ended in an argument between us. Afterward, he begged and pleaded with me to stay. He insisted he would leave his wife and that we could still have the life we had always talked about. But it didn’t feel right anymore. I kept thinking: if he could do that to his wife, what could he do to me?
For the next few weeks, our conversations revolved around him begging and me pushing him away. Then, two weeks ago, he told me that he had filed for divorce because he didn’t want to lose what we had. His words really got to me. His constant begging was starting to wear me down.
Last week, I found out I was pregnant with his child. Shortly after that, his wife called me and demanded a meeting. I was hesitant, but she made me an offer I couldn’t refuse, so I agreed to meet her for coffee.
During our meeting, she told me not to trust him. According to her, he always acted like she was “the best woman on the planet,” but he cheated every chance he got. It was a warning I took seriously—but it wasn’t the only thing she said. She also asked if I would be willing to let her kids meet the baby.
She explained that since the baby carried their father’s blood, they had a right to know it and to be part of its life. I have no idea how she found out I was pregnant, but at this point, too much has been happening for me to even question it.
So now I need advice. What do I do about my baby’s father? And do I allow his children to get to know my child? Is it a good idea to have his ex-family involved in my baby’s life?
Source: brightside.me